Shift your Beliefs, Change Your Path
What We Learn We are taught at a very early age by our parents, to be careful. We are told to not talk to strangers and look both ways before crossing the street. Most parents want their kids to live beyond their years and this requires teaching them to be cautious about many things. This mindset is usually passed on generation to generation. It was the same for their parents and so on down the line. There are numerous rules that people must follow. Failure to do so can lead us to constant rejection, possibly legal issues or worst be flagged as a complete outcast to society. And even if what we contemplate is legal, because we have been adhering to rules all of our lives, this tends to add to our cautious state of being. There is a constant hesitation to take chances because these rules are ingrained into our lives forcing many of us into a state of consistent conformity. We tend to follow the crowd and there are studies to back this up. It has been said that we have a herd mentality. If you are on a busy city street and you look up in the sky for a long period of time, you will find more and more people gather around to see exactly what you are looking at. There may be nothing of importance up there. They just want to know what the attraction is. So with taking chances, if no one else has done it before, most of people will probably not take the plunge. As previously mentioned, there is this constant need of verification or social proof. This is why people look to product reviews and forums before they make purchases online. They want to know that others have successfully purchased and used products or services without problems.
Moving Forward These reasons that we don’t like to take chances are really just mental blocks that have been put in place. They put up a proverbial stop sign anytime we encounter something that doesn’t sit well with us. This leads us to create excuses as to why something shouldn’t be done. The biggest problem is that these beliefs or blocks took a lifetime to build up so breaking them down is never an easy task. We first have to embrace the idea that the limiting beliefs that have become part of us can be can be broken down before we allow ourselves to take a plunge. Removing Limiting Beliefs: 4 Steps 1. Write the limiting belief down. Be aware of your own thinking and bring yourself present to the old belief by making a note of it and then challenging the validity of it. For example, “I can’t do this or get this done” Challenge it: Is that I can’t or I don’t want to? What have I tried so far? 2. List all the ways the limiting belief is not serving you. Examine and evaluate the consequences of keeping the limiting beliefs. Review the cost of not taking action because of your limiting belief. Ask yourself: What opportunities have I watched pass me by because I believe that (fill in the blank) 3. Create or choose a new belief Replace the limiting belief with a new empowering belief. Your new belief should be a reflection of how you want to feel or act. For example, “I have more than enough resources at my disposal. I deserve every opportunity that comes to me and I know that things will always work out for my good.” 4. Visualize Carve out some time each morning (4 to 5 minutes), sit in a quiet space and visualize yourself living with your new belief. See yourself experiencing the new feelings and sensations and embracing the new lifestyle. This exercise helps embed your belief in your subconscious. Come back to this vision each time you feel yourself going back to the old belief. As in everything in life, nothing is set in stone. Situations can be uprooted at any time. The key is having a process to deal with the continual change and committing to it. Our limiting beliefs can have a strong hold over us. It is a matter of choosing to work through it or holding it as true. So taking the chances and breaking away from the hold is solely up to us.
Carline Bejin Author
Carline Bejin, is a Mom first, Free-Spirited Restorative Coach, Yoga & Meditation Teacher, Domestic Violence Survivor/Advocate, Speaker and Writer. She is the Founder of Beautiful Authentic Life where she empowers women to Emerge, Evolve and Exhale by embracing who they truly are and pursuing their passion unapologetically.
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