See Your Value, Walk Into Your Purpose
You are destined to be who you are. You are made to be different from everyone else. Celebrate that. You have a unique perspective in this game called life. If you are constantly comparing yourself to others, it means you are not happy with who you are. Why?
At a young age, our way of making sense of things was in comparing so that we could figure out our place in this world. This is all well and good as long as you were encouraged to build a strong sense of self and in turn develop self-esteem. But at some point, comparing yourself to others may have become a habit creating damaging beliefs such as not feeling as capable as others, not as good as others and less likely to succeed.
We are brought up to conform to society. While growing up, the belief of not being accepted if we didn’t fit within society’s norms, grew stronger and stronger. Believe it or not, most people are not “normal” in the truest sense of the word. Everyone has their quirks. It’s these quirks that give us the opportunity to find better solutions to our problems. These differences also keep us from getting bored. Imagine if everyone were exactly the same. There would be nothing new to learn about anyone.
There are some valid reasons to conform. For example, we need to follow the rules and laws of our designated country and community. Otherwise, we will suffer the consequences for not complying. We also want to treat others with respect so that they will hopefully return that respect. However, if you try to be like everyone else and/or live up to others expectations, you are not going to be able to live your life to the fullest.
This is why getting out of the habit of comparing yourself to others is important. Unrealistic expectations are set and will constantly lead you to disappointment. This habit can also result in you resenting people. People have their reasons for being who they are, and it has nothing to do with you.
There may be qualities you like in others. There is nothing wrong with trying to take on some of those qualities for yourself. But, if you feel an urge to redefine who you are in order to be like those people, you will be going down a road of uncertainty and loss of purpose. Remember that you are not them, and you never will be.
Our time on this planet is short. You will be in for a rough ride if you choose to spend most of that time trying to be like someone else. Being who you are and aligning with others who are willing to accept you as is, will bring more satisfaction in your life than to live under the scrutiny of others expectations. This will also allow you to see your value so that you can walk into your purpose. You won’t have to be a pretender. People can see right through that. Think about other people who are not truly being themselves. How long does it take you to see through that?